“Remember this. Hold on to this. This is the only perfection there is: The perfection of helping others. This is the only thing we can do that has any lasting meaning. This is why we’re here. To make each other feel safe.”
~ Andre Agassi
Yesterday I read a beautiful article on what it means to hold space for someone else. I wanted to share it with you this morning, for I thought quite a bit about it, as I watched this warm sunrise …
As a friend and coach, there are a number of people whom I hold space for, and I’m continually learning and feeling my way in this process. Interestingly enough, many of the same people I support, also hold space for me. It’s virtually impossible to be a strong space holder unless we have others who will hold space for us.
Heather Platt writes: “Holding Space for someone means that we are willing to walk alongside another person in whatever journey they’re on without judging them, making them feel inadequate, trying to fix them, or trying to impact the outcome. When we hold space for other people, we open our hearts, offer unconditional support, and let go of judgement and control.”
“It’s not always easy to hold space for someone, because I have a very human tendency to want to fix people, give them advice, or judge them for not being further along the path than they are, but I keep trying because I know that it’s important.”
Here’s Heather’s 8 Tips on how we can become better “Space Holders” ….
1. Give people permission to trust their own intuition.
2. Give only as much information as others can handle.
3. Respect each others differences and thought processes.
4. Allow others autonomy to make their own decisions, which may be different from our own.
5. Create a container for complex emotions to emerge.
6. Keep our ego out of it. Emotions are usually about them, not us.
7. Make people feel safe enough to fail.
8. Offer guidance and help with humility and thoughtfulness.
Today, let’s honor and appreciate those people in our lives who allow us to be vulnerable and weak without fear of being judged, for the space holders are truly precious ❤
Source & Full Article worth reading:
http://heatherplett.com/2015/03/hold-space/
More Information on creating formal sacred circles:
http://peerspirit.com/the-circle-way/
