“I can see clearly now, the rain is gone …
I can see all obstacles in my way ….
Gone are are the dark clouds that had me blind,
It’s gonna be a bright, bright sunshinin’ day.”
~ Jimmy Cliff
Sunrise really is amazing. Each morning I look back through the hundreds of photos I’ve posted, and they are all so different. Today, it was like the clouds were a natural filter. I’m not sure if it’s supposed to rain today, but we did get a marvelous passing shower yesterday, that gave the cistern a nice refill, and the plants a break from the summer heat.
So I have a friend, who has a decision to make, and I understand is beating himself up over it. I had to laugh at how easily mother nature presents an answer. Indecision most certainly feels like a “dark cloud” hanging over your head.
One quote suggests ““Sometimes if you have a difficult decision to make, just stall until the answer presents itself.” And while this is true, isn’t the hanging in limbo stage always the hardest? “The risk of a wrong decision is preferable to the terror of indecision.”
Over the years, I’ve spent plenty of time in limbo. But I’ve also made hard decisions. Most of the time what keeps us in limbo is fear, or a need to be “right”, or sometimes a feeling that we need more fact gathering.
Rachana Shakyawar writes “What I have learned in life is that, what we are today, are not the compromises or sacrifices we made in life. We are the product of passion in priorities we make to enrich our life as well as others lives. Indeed, you are only growing and evolving in your life with your tough decisions.”
Deepak Chopra suggests “If you obsess over whether you are making the right decision, you are basically assuming that the universe will reward you for one thing and punish you for another.” Wow, isn’t that the truth! Deepak writes further: “The universe has no fixed agenda. Once you make any decision, it works around that decision. There is no right or wrong, only a series of possibilities that shift with each thought, feeling, and action that you experience.”
“Who can really say how decisions are made, how emotions change, how ideas arise” writes John Lindqvist. “We talk about inspiration; about a bolt of lightening from a clear sky, but perhaps everything is just as simple and just as infinitely complex as the processes that make a particular leaf fall at a particular moment. That point has been reached, that’s all. It has to happen, and it does happen.”
I have another friend who has spent months contemplating a geographical move. And the decision did finally come, just like that, totally out of the blue. As if the universe said, “It’s time now.”
So when it seems like there is no right or wrong answer, I’d suggest getting grounded in faith. I write about that all the time. Let go of the need to make a decision, and just be. Life will unfold as it’s meant to, no matter what our little minds try to concoct or decipher. When the situation arises, you’ll know it. Until then, breathe, stay grounded in the now, let go of worry. There are rarely any problems in the here and now …
How about you? Any advise for my friend on how to be comfortable dealing with indecision?
Happy Sunday!
